How to Ask Your Friends and Family
Some brides-to-be are blessed with a bounty of friends and family from which to choose a selection of bridesmaids, all of which would feel honored to participate in their wedding. But others are not as fortunate. There are cases where a bride-to-be doesn't have any sisters, and very few friends and family to call on for their wedding. This can be an intimidating situation. Here are some ideas for how to ask your friends and family to be in your bridal party.
If Shy, By Letter
If you are a shy person and are a little intimidated by the prospect of being rejected to your face, you may way to send out personalized letters to the women who you want to be in your bridal party. Some of us are a lot better on paper than in person.
So the question of will you be my bridesmaid? can be asked in a heartfelt letter explaining your choice. This may even be better than saying it face to face, because you will be able to tell them more without encroaching on their time.
If you are more of a talker, invite a group of your friends, co-workers, and family out to lunch where you ask everyone as a group if they will be in your bridal party. Tell them how much they mean to you and why you chose them. Nobody wants to feel like they were a last option, so when deciding on how to ask your friends and family to be in your bridal party, be sure to let them know that they are a first choice.
No Cost to Bridesmaids
Hearing the question will you be my bridesmaid? creates dreaded images in the minds of some women. Many of these women are reluctant to be a part of a bridal party due to the financial cost and aggravation involved. This is especially so when they are not really that close to the bride-to-be.
So if you are faced with a situation where you are short on choices as far as bridesmaids are concerned, and only plan to have a couple of bridesmaids at your wedding anyway, offer to pay for all of their costs. The extra couple of hundred dollars you will spend on their dresses and shoes will be worth the relief of having your bridesmaids booked.
You also want to make it clear to your bridesmaids that they will not have a "bridezilla" situation on their hands. The money issue is nothing to prospective bridesmaids compared to the aggravation of having to deal with a crazy, obsessive bride. Limit the time they need to invest getting ready for your wedding to the rehearsal dinner and the day of the wedding. No more. No need for a bridal shower, unless they decide to throw one for you.
If you are fortunate to have many close friends, you probably have women competing to be your bridesmaids. But for others, figuring out how to ask your friends and family to be in your bridal party can be a daunting task. Use common sense and practical means to get the bridesmaids that you need to participate in your wedding.